Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Revenge is Not Sweet

We can learn from the example of  Yosef towards his brothers that one should never seek revenge against a person who causes him any harm or distress or damage.  Rather, one should repay even a guilty offender with kindness [Tanya Ch 12]

Why should we be kind to guilty offenders?

Because whatever that person did to you ultimately stems from God.  The person was merely an agent from God, Who decreed that this thing should occur to YOU.  Thus, since ''everything that God does is for the good'' [Brachot 60b],  you must repay the person - who brought this ''good'' to you - with kindness.

Source: Lubavitcher Rebbe, Likutei Sichos Vol 5 p. 247

Note: this is not referring to someone who is trying to kill you.... for more information on this see The Jew's Double Standard



8 comments:

Moriah said...

Off topic: FYI:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-eFLRDld1ho

Anonymous said...

Devorah... what if, GD forbid, a child who is disturbed greatly, is threatening to kill you, how do you handle this one?

Anonymous said...

That actually happened to someone I know. He was schizophrenic, from drug use. He picked up a knife and threatened to kill them. They called the police, he was taken to a psychiatric hospital, and his medication was adjusted. He is okay now, as long as he takes his medication.
I don't think you have too many options in a case like that. You have to stop him from attacking you, he is out of his mind and needs to be treated.
If he's just talking about it, and you still think there is a chance he might do something, then he does need some kind of intervention.

Anonymous said...

thank you...

Leah said...

Yes, it needs to be mentioned that if someone is abusive, sometimes distance is the best part of the relationship.
Daven for the person, but no need to place yourself in harm's way... revenge? no, but distance, yes.

Anonymous said...

Hard to think about distance,,,and how do you go about doing this... i don't know. Agree distance is best for all involved, but this is a hard one.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes these opinions and/or interpretations of our great Sages are misinterpreted by the general populace. Truth is common sense always prevails; this is the mechanism that H' gave to humanity.

Revenge is not the same as putting someone in his/her proper place if they in any way are abusive or whatever. As Shlomo HaMelech said, 'there is a time for war, a time for peace, a time to love and a time to hate'. Revenge is something else altogether, and that's H's role - 'vengeance is mine, says H''.

AishKodesh said...

Beautiful, Devorah!!