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Thursday, May 16, 2024

Sticks and Stones: Insults and How We React To Them



H/t Sara


by Rabbi Eliyahu Safran

“Our Rabbis taught: Those who are insulted ne’elavin but do not insult, hear themselves reviled shomeim cherpasan without responding, act through love and rejoice in suffering, regarding them the verse states: ‘But they who love Him as the sun goes forth in its might’ Judges 5:31

In commenting on this Talmudic passage, my grandfather notes, “Why the double language? Why, “those who are insulted but do not insult” only to repeat (in form and idea) “hear themselves reviled without responding” . 

Aren’t these speaking to the very same people and lesson, they who are insulted but do not respond in kind? 

To address the question, he delved deeply into the psychology of life. He explained that there are times when one is insulted, demeaned and humiliated, and the insulted one remains stone silent; he gives no response at all, not so much as a peep to the one who insulted him. However, his silence, my grandfather notes, does not necessarily suggest that he is generous of spirit, or blessed with the most beautiful human attributes. It could very well be the insult stuns him so that he is rendered silent, left to seethe, to seep and to stew in his anger and silence. 

There are other times when one who is insulted knows only too well how evil the one piling on the insult is, he knows just how despicable the insult is and he feels he simply must respond… and yet, he holds his tongue. He accepts the abuse heaped upon him with silence and grace. This reaction is a sign that the insulted one is of noble character, that he is high up on the ladder of hishtalmut (wholesomeness). 

Thus, when we are first taught about those who “are insulted but do not insult (ha’neelavin ve’einan olvin) we cannot be certain that their non-response comes from a noble place or from a frightened, defeated place. However, those who “hear themselves reviled” (shomeim cherpasam) hear all of the abuse heaped upon them. They know how to respond. Indeed, they are capable of giving back in kind to those who heaped cherpa upon them. Yet, they do not. They einam meishivin – they do not respond. Their non-response, rather than being a sign of weakness is a sign of strength; it is the ultimate indicator of their character. They are the ones who “act through love and rejoice in suffering”! 

It is in praise of those possessing such fine character that the passage goes on, “…they who love Him as the sun goes forth in its might.” Why? Why this verse from Judges with its comparison to the sun? Because the insulted one who does not respond – even with a justifiable reason to respond – is compared to the sun which did not respond to the moon’s complaint and unfounded challenge that “…it is not possible for two kings to rule with one crown (light)”!

Source: OU Torah

8 comments:

  1. sc you're probably right. thank you.

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  2. What's happening with Rafah? Till when is this war supposed to last ? What's with the geulah?
    Yonatan

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  3. You never heard so much talk, hype about a thing. Rafah. Go in. We'ew going in. No you don't! Yes we will. When? Soon. No. Yes.
    Geeze Louse!
    The Zohar of the opening in shamsyim of all evil over Rafia tells it all. RAFAH IS THE END GAME. Zohar says after this battle the hole is closed. The North attacks and Hashem fights back. It is His then His war. To anhilate Amelek.
    Of course, it is being dragged out. The satan is fighting for his life.

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  4. Exactly. The Satan is dying, as Rabbi Kessin always says.

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  5. This reminded of Mashiach ben Yosef as described in the Tanach by Navi Isaiah (53:7):

    "He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth." 

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  6. Anonymous' comment on Mashiach ben Yousef.

    "He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth."

    Its this line that xtians use to show its the man they refer to as god, Jesus, and worship this man.

    Not sure he ever existed, or just made up.

    sc

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  7. "He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth."

    As chazal say, this refers to Am Yisrael and it has been proven over and over and over again throughout history. Most recently, not just in the lines of people heading into the "showers" in German prison camps, but also in those like the Bibas family being led to slaughter in Gaza!!

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  8. Devorah Chayah,

    But of course!

    Your absolutley right!

    Toda.

    sc

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