tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post3102627089966433718..comments2024-03-29T15:54:38.559+11:00Comments on Shirat Devorah: The Three Levels of ForgivingDevorahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00793434651294780439noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-5163428646033452052017-01-03T12:43:02.233+11:002017-01-03T12:43:02.233+11:00Ms. AP..
I understand and can empathize with you.
...Ms. AP..<br />I understand and can empathize with you.<br /><br />Please read my email i sent.<br /><br />Devorah, thank you for your postings.. so much helped me on your blog.<br /><br />Even comments from some of your dear readers.. make me see life in a more realistic way.<br /><br />Mostly, i thank Hashem for being there even when i was not aware.<br /><br />Hashem is there for all.. Baruch Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-66059381480460034122017-01-03T11:15:22.975+11:002017-01-03T11:15:22.975+11:00Following my divorce from an abusive husband i wen...Following my divorce from an abusive husband i went through hell for about 2 1/2 yrs until the separation agreement was drafted. I gradually got myself back on my feet from an emotional standpoint, and have always provided for my children's needs. It has been a number of years now. I not only have forgiven my ex but, together with a relative of his, make sure his needs are met at a care home Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-62164642571352389262017-01-03T07:22:38.494+11:002017-01-03T07:22:38.494+11:00Also I want to say it is not so easy to forgive an...Also I want to say it is not so easy to forgive and you do have to work very hard on it but ultimately it is the best thing you can do for yourself and for your children if you have them. Best advice I can give is that you don't stoop to the level of the abuser. You must keep your self-respect and your good nature and do not become like him - an angry bitter person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-44651093321988618772017-01-03T07:19:18.242+11:002017-01-03T07:19:18.242+11:00I would like to offer my experience here. I was a...I would like to offer my experience here. I was an abused wife for many years, and divorced him. I spent many years being angry and made myself physically ill as well as mentally ill. Eventually after I learned about the Torah's lessons on how to forgive and I managed to forgive him, my life was changed. I was finally FREE again. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-41341689161000675912017-01-03T06:39:39.974+11:002017-01-03T06:39:39.974+11:00AP; as far as abuse is concerned, then definitely ...AP; as far as abuse is concerned, then definitely you need to get out of an abusive relationship, no question about that. Forgiveness does not mean that you stay with the person, it means you free yourself from the feelings of hatred and revenge. It is a much healthier way to live, if you can do it. But it doesn't mean that you forget, because of course you will never forget it, but you canDevorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00793434651294780439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-76394541343555059542017-01-03T04:44:52.896+11:002017-01-03T04:44:52.896+11:00The issue of collective forgiveness takes a quite ...The issue of collective forgiveness takes a quite different dimension than the individual attitude towards forgiveness. The sin perpetrated by a collectivity couldn't easily be forgoten or forgiven. It is primarily because a collectivity act is a cumulus of individual decisions, so that its wrong doings could hardly be labelled as personal error/ sin. <br />We can see how Hashem dealt with Drornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-45824363445581450992017-01-03T02:35:05.768+11:002017-01-03T02:35:05.768+11:00I really do not believe we need to forgive our ‘en...I really do not believe we need to forgive our ‘enemies’ unless they be Jewish (as we do on Yom Kippur). While some people become messengers of Shamayim of seeming bad and evil deeds, they will be punished if they did their deed with glee or were overly cruel. If an innocent perpetrator of a punishment ( from Shamayim) toward another, then they are not held accountable. This is why Divine Neshamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06326762185596512130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-40684209368915703442017-01-03T01:45:54.722+11:002017-01-03T01:45:54.722+11:00I have difficulty with the concept of abuse,partic...I have difficulty with the concept of abuse,particularly on innocent children, being anything other than from forces of evil. Also, some relationships can be so toxic towards one person i.e.: wife abuse, that the only alternative is to walk away - and to do so fast - before you put your life in jeopardy. There is hardly any chance of redemption for sexual predators, etc. In biblical times they Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-51395060338472060252017-01-02T21:09:54.171+11:002017-01-02T21:09:54.171+11:00It is a matter of recognising that any bad thing t...It is a matter of recognising that any bad thing that happens to you ultimately comes from Hashem, and the perpetrator of that bad thing is basically just an instrument of Hashem..... no matter how big or small that thing may be..... it's all from Hashem. Living a life of bitterness and resentment does not help the victim at all. the perpetrator will ultimately be punished for his/her role,Devorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00793434651294780439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5653322480497916341.post-58976411026870162172017-01-02T20:19:57.632+11:002017-01-02T20:19:57.632+11:00Surely it depends on the gravity of the sin agains...Surely it depends on the gravity of the sin against the victim. Some sins against a victim are pretty trivial, may cause some hurt and resentment, but nevertheless are easily forgiven. More serious sins against a victim/s causing life-changing or unremitting hurt and negative repercussions are not so easily forgiven. 'One size' teshuva followed by automatic forgiveness does not fit all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com