Rav Breitowitz - you mention about private mourning starting out very intense. The thing is, some people in private mourning really don't feel anything at all, because either they were estranged from the relative, or else the relative may have been abusive. So when people go to be "menachem" them, and they're compelled to put on an act, how is that of help to the faux-mourner?
Rabbi Breitowitz probably doesn't see comments here.
The faux-mourner doesn't need to put on an act. The people who are coming are there to support you, not to judge you.
I had to sit shiva with my family and everyone was upset about the person who had passed, but because the whole family was together and we hadn't seen each other for a long time, there were times that we were laughing a lot, which is not typical "mourning" behaviour.
I know people who have sat shiva alone, and asked for no visitors at all.
History concurs, as well as Rabbi Avigdor Miller Zt”l, that it was not th3 children of Yaakov, but rather those who left with the Israelites that have been our nemesis all these long long GOLUS years. I have a post with info from Myrtlerisind and Rabbi Miller on this topic. Neshama
Rav Breitowitz - you mention about private mourning starting out very intense. The thing is, some people in private mourning really don't feel anything at all, because either they were estranged from the relative, or else the relative may have been abusive. So when people go to be "menachem" them, and they're compelled to put on an act, how is that of help to the faux-mourner?
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DeleteThe faux-mourner doesn't need to put on an act. The people who are coming are there to support you, not to judge you.
I had to sit shiva with my family and everyone was upset about the person who had passed, but because the whole family was together and we hadn't seen each other for a long time, there were times that we were laughing a lot, which is not typical "mourning" behaviour.
I know people who have sat shiva alone, and asked for no visitors at all.
History concurs, as well as Rabbi Avigdor Miller Zt”l, that it was not th3 children of Yaakov, but rather those who left with the Israelites that have been our nemesis all these long long GOLUS years. I have a post with info from Myrtlerisind and Rabbi Miller on this topic. Neshama
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