The Complete Guide to Problem Solving



Art:  Mike Worrall



There is no problem in the world that cannot be solved by using one of the four options below:

(1)  Fix it

Some people know they have a problem but they forget they can actually fix it. There's a story told about a man who complained that every day for lunch he had tuna sandwiches.  “If I have tuna sandwiches one more time I”m gonna kill myself!” he said.  But the next day, he again has tuna sandwiches! Someone asked him who made the sandwiches, and he replied: “I make my own sandwiches”.    This may sound like a silly story, but if you think about a situation hard enough, you may come to the conclusion that you are the one responsible for it, and you can do the changing.

(2)  Seek Advice

If you personally can’t fix the problem, talk to someone who can.  Talk to a doctor, a friend, a lawyer, an accountant.... whatever the problem is, talk to someone who you respect and has the extra knowledge with which to help you fix it.

(3) Walk Away - and don't look back

If the first two solutions are not applicable: that is, you cannot fix it, and you cannot talk to anybody who can fix it, then there’s a simple solution: Walk away from it.  Remove the problem from your life and your thoughts and forget it ever existed.

(4)  If none of the above are applicable to your situation: in other words, you cannot fix it and you cannot walk away from it..... because it could involve a child, or close friend or relative.... and you cannot change them and you cannot walk away from them....... then there is one more solution:

Accept it.

“Accept it” doesn't mean “tolerate it” - it means Accept it. This is what Hashem has given you, and there is obviously no way out. You must accept it, and by doing so your entire outlook will instantly change.

At the Gates of Heaven

Art by Schnette

R' Meir of Premishlan or, as he was fondly known, R' Maer'l, was renowned for his devotion to tzedakah. Any gifts he received from his Chassidim he immediately distributed to the poor. He explained himself in this way:

"Meir'l once went up to Heaven in a dream and observed what happened to people as they came to Heaven after they died.

"The first to appear by the celestial gates was a great Torah scholar, who was not granted immediate entry into Heaven. Instead, he was politely asked to wait outside a while so that the angels could determine whether his studies were pursued with pure intentions or in order to be recognized and praised for his great wisdom.

"The second soul to appear before the gates was that of a tzaddik who devoted his life to leading and advising his flock in their search to serve Hashem. He too was cordially asked to wait outside while his motives were thoroughly investigated.

"The third to arrive was a poor innkeeper who accepted all guests into his inn. If someone had money to pay for his room and board, the innkeeper would graciously accept it. However, if the person were too poor to pay, the host would gladly provide hospitality free of charge.

"The angels immediately decided that he should be ushered into the presence of Hashem without any delay. They had no doubt that his charity was pure because he had not done it for recognition and he helped the poor without expecting any reward in return.

"From this dream Maer'l learnt the enormous importance of tzedakah and decided to become a gabbai tzedakah to distribute Hashem's money among the poor."

Source: Rabbi Avrohom Chaim Feuer

Min HaShamayim

Pennies from Heaven by Heidi Malott

The Gematria of Parnosa [Sustenance] -  פרנסה -  has the same value as haShamayim [Heaven] - השׁמים - to teach us that our sustenance comes from Heaven.

Wisdom from the Past

Art: Alex Levin

In an effort to assert the authority of the Sanhedrin (the high court), Rabban Gamliel, the first Nassi (President; Head of the Sanhedrin) after the destruction of the second Temple, would ensure in the strictest fashion, that his rulings would be followed by all. To this end, he harshly sanctioned and reproached Rabbi Yehoshua publicly on numerous occasions for his opinions which were contrary to the ones of the Nassi.

The following Talmudic passage [Brachot pp27b-28a] recounts the steps taken by the leading rabbis of that time to stop Rabban Gamliel.

"Let us take steps to deprive Rabban Gamliel of his dignity (of being the Nassi). But who shall be his successor? Shall we appoint Rabbi Yehoshua? He is personally involved in this incident (and it would cause Rabban Gamliel too much aggravation - Rashi). Shall we appoint Rabbi Akiva? He has no ancestral merits (and may be disposed to Heavenly punishment through Rabban Gamliel's prayers - Rashi). Let us therefore choose Rabbi Elazar ben Azaryah for he is wise, wealthy and the tenth generation from Ezra.

So they came to Rabbi Elazar ben Azaryah and said to him: "Is the master willing to become the head of the Academy?" Rabbi Elazar replied "I will go and consult with members of my household." He went and consulted with his wife. She replied "Perhaps you will also be removed from this position."

He responded: "There is a maxim. Use your precious bowl while you have it, even if it be broken the next day." (Meaning, I will be the Nassi for as long as it will last)

"But", she said, "you do not have any white hair (and it is fit for the Nassi to be an elder - Rashi)

At that time he was only 18 years old. Thereupon, miraculously eighteen of his locks turned white. And this is what Rabbi Elazar ben Azaryah meant when he said: "Behold! I am as a man of seventy years of age" - but not aged seventy.

The Iyun Yaakov suggests that the rabbis specifically elected Rabbi Elazar for his wisdom despite his young age, to emphasize that knowledge is more important than experience. However, this commentary leaves many questions unanswered.

The Lubavitcher Rebbe commented as follows:

Many points in this story need to be clarified:

1. The quality of old age lies in the years of life experienced by an elder. As written in Navi [Iyov 32:7] "The abundance of years will testify on wisdom". One does not become wise merely by appearing old. So how can Rabbi Elazar's appearance command the respect fit for elders?

2. The Talmud [Brachot 28a] mentions the importance of sincerity, observing that specifically in Rabban Gamliel's time, all scholars had to be as pious inwardly as they appeared to be outwardly. It seems that Rabbi Elazar did not adhere to this principle as he was a young man portraying himself to be a 70 year old man.

It is certain that Rabbi Elazar ben Azaryah was an honest and sincere person. His elderly appearance was not a disguise. He really had all the qualities of a 70 year old man. However, until he received a white beard, this fact was hidden from everybody. After the miraculous emergence of his white hair, it became obvious to all that he was as old inwardly as he was outwardly. His new appearance testified to his true spiritual age. (Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak Schneersohn said that the true age of a person is not necessarily the one inscribed on his passport, but rather his inner age, the one that reflects his qualities and knowledge)

But how can a young man have the qualities acquired through old age? He does not have the "abundance of years" required to earn wisdom.

The Arizal explains [Sidur HaArizal] that Rabbi Elazar Ben Azaryah was a reincarnation of the prophet Shmuel. Rabbi Elazar inherited his strength and wisdom. Shmuel died at the age of 52. According to the Talmud, Rabbi Elazar was 18 years old at the time he became the Nassi. Adding the years of Shmuel's life to his own, Rabbi Elazar was effectively 70 years old. Similarly we find that the Rabbis mentioned the fact that he was the tenth generation from Ezra. The Mishnah states [Eduyot 9:2] that a son inherits his father's wisdom. Therefore, Rabbi Elazar inherited the wisdom of Ezra, who was himself a Nassi.

This point can be better understood through a story told about Rabbi Shmuel, fourth Rebbe of Lubavitch - "the Maharash". Once, his elder brother Rabbi Yisrael Noach, sarcastically asked the Maharash how a young man such as him could be so knowledgeable in Talmud. The Maharash answered: "You might be older than me with your own years, however I am older than you, counting my father's years." Since the Maharash was born after Rabbi Yisroel Noach, at the time of his birth, his father the Tzemach Tzedek was older and wiser. Therefore he inherited a greater amount of wisdom and knowledge from his father, albeit vast knowledge can only be acquired with time.

An encouraging message can be taken from this story. Throughout life, we are faced with challenges and tasks that seem to be much too difficult for us to endure. We might wonder if we are up to the challenge. This story demonstrates that with the power of our ancestors and earlier gilgulim (reincarnations) we have all we need to succeed. [see Shaar Hagilgulim, preface 3 and 4]

This is particularly relevant with regards to the imminent redemption. considering the low spiritual level in which we find ourselves, in the global decadence of this era in which "the darkness shall cover the earth", we might skeptically ask ourselves how we can bring Moshiach, considering the fact that the great generations that preceded us did not succeed.

Once again, we learn from the tale of Rabbi Elazar ben Azaryah that we are not alone in this struggle. We are only completing a task that was started by our illustrious ancestors. The merit of their good deeds is eternal [see Tanya ch 25] in contrast with evil which is not everlasting (when a person repents for his sins, his transgressions are transformed into meritorious deeds). The light they brought to this world through their Torah and mitzvot has accumulated during all these years and is standing by our side, making it possible to finish the work they started, and finally bring Moshiach.

Based on Likutei Sichos (Lubavitcher Rebbe) vol.1 p246 and vol.7 p.123

Written by the Students of Seminary Beis Menachem, Montreal Canada

The Famous Donkey

"Moshe took his wife and his sons, mounted them upon the [famous] donkey, and he returned to the land of Egypt....Moshe took the staff of G-d in his hand." [Shemos 4:20]

Why was a donkey chosen for Moshe's mission?

Rashi: Moshe mounted his wife and children on a unique donkey. This was the donkey which Avraham himself prepared for the journey to sacrifice his son Yitzchak. And it is the donkey on which Moshiach is going to be revealed on, as the verse states that Moshiach is "a poor man riding on a donkey" [Zechariah 9:9]

Be'er Mayim Chayim: Rashi is troubled why the verse says that he "mounted them upon the donkey" rather than merely "a donkey". Therefore, he concluded that the Torah must be hinting that it is a famous donkey.

Pirkei d'Rabbi Eliezer: This donkey was born to the famous donkey formed on the first Friday of creation, after sunset [see Avos 5:6]. It is the donkey on which Moshe rode when coming to Egypt. And it is the donkey which the son of David (Moshiach) will ride upon.

Entering the Twilight Zone

A light show in the Heavens and a nuclear war on the horizon (Korea)..... we have the total lunar eclipse of the full moon on December 21 - the winter solstice - (the last time this line up occurred was during the Great Depression, and it will not occur again until December 21, 2485)  and the threat of Korea which could begin WW3 - is this the final war before Moshiach?  

Click here to read "Interesting Times: Dec 21 2010"
Click here to read  "Korea: Fulfilling the Prophecy"

An occasional contributor to this blog, Daniel S, shares his thoughts below:

"This upcoming virtually guaranteed war, (we wrote about it several months ago before any tensions) according to my near term calculations, may break out in the next few weeks and last a total of three months, as I have written, before the much broader war is over in the second month of Adar when, according to Sefer Bnei Yissaschor (Adar Ma'ammar 4), nations who behave like Amalekites (who also aid others to destroy Israel -- give Iran the technology to do so) are wiped out just as they were on Purim which took place that year in the second Adar. He also writes that in the End of Days, you will see that Amalek will be wiped out in the month of Adar (containing Purim) and more so in Adar 2 - Hashem, at times, working through the better nations to do so.

For example: the first Gulf War against the Amalekite Sadaam Hussein, ended precisely on the day of Purim (when we also read Parshas Zachor to remember and wipe out the memory of Amalek the first nation to attack us upon our exit from Egypt having just become the nation) while the second Gulf War began precisely on the day after Purim called "Shushan Purim." So anyone who thinks this is not the very end of days, is naive.

This month of Adar, the month of Purim, this year (a leap year) has a hidden second such month called Adar Bet (or Adar 2). There isn't another one like it for 3 more years.

So we are now in the middle of Tevet (coincidentally my Hebrew birthday is today hence the attachment of codes* displayed from my Bar Mitzvah Parsha, Vayechi) when historically, as the Talmud records, the world generally has tragic events that in the past have threatened Israel and the world.

Moreover, this Tuesday night is a total eclipse of the moon, potentially portending bad events in the world.

Following this month of Tevet, only leaves three months of Sh'vat, Adar, and Adar Bet for the duration of this war.

While obviously no guarantees it will be now, however, one just has to read the news to know it is inevitably close."

 

Also see a post from 2005:  "Years of Awe" blog: Koreas in Twilight Zone

*codes are in PDF format, Email me if you want a copy

Within Reach




"She sent her maidservant and she took it" [Shemos 2:5]

Chazal inform us that the basket carrying Moshe was too far for Pharoah's daughter to reach from where she was standing. Still, she stretched out her hand (amasah) in the direction of the basket and Hashem miraculously lengthened her arm for her.

R' Meir Shapiro, the rosh yeshivah of Yeshivas Chachmei Lublin, called for an emergency meeting of the leaders of Lublin to discuss a certain person whose life was in danger.  R' Shapiro demanded of them to do something to save his life.

"This matter that you speak of" responded one of the leaders, "is beyond our capabilities.  We regrettably do not believe that we can carry it out."

"In this week's parsha" replied R' Shapiro, "the Torah states: "And she sent her maidservant".  Chazal teach us that the arm of Pharoah's daughter was miraculously lengthened in order for her to take hold of Moshe's basket.

"I wonder" continued R' Shapiro, "why did Pharoah's daughter even attempt to retrieve the basket in the first place?  After all, if it is obvious to an individual that something is not within his reach, does he waste his energy trying to obtain it?"

"We see from here" concluded R' Shapiro, "that when a person is expected to accomplish something, he should not deliberate whether or not he is capable of succeeding - he must try! Let him first make an effort, and then Heaven will assist him."

Source: Rabbi Yisrael Bronstein

Strength in Unity

A father invited all of his children to his home. When they arrived, they gathered around him.

The father held several thin twigs in his hand. He gave one to each of his children and then asked them to break them.

His children snapped the dry twigs with ease.

The father then passed around a bundle of several twigs.  "Now" said the father "please try breaking this bundle."  Each one tried to break the bundle but none succeeded.

"You see" said the father "as long as you remain united in the same way that these branches are united, nobody will ever be able to harm you! But if you act divisively and there is disharmony among you, then be aware that a lone individual is as feeble and easily broken as a thin twig."